weddings are a subject that we all approach differently. Some people dream of a lavish wedding in a castle. Others prefer a church ceremony.
Some aspects of weddings are controversial. One in particular sparked a discussion on Mum’s web last week.
In a thread, one of the users complained about being asked to pay cash instead of a traditional gift. He wrote: “We were invited to a marriage. Only evening invite. The invitation contained a tacky song asking for cash. (Guests invited for the entire day did not get a begging poem, hmm).
We can’t afford to give money. In general, I would give whatever was requested despite my feelings. However, I believe that the small amount of money we can afford will make us look rude.
“My options are to either give a nice but cheap gift or to donate to a charity I know the family will appreciate. I’m not sure if they will enjoy a wrapped gift if it will only be us. What would you choose?
Mixed responses were received. One reply read: “The fact that they’requested money’ is irrelevant.” The guests can’t do that unless they are asked what they want. It’s a present, so the giver has discretion.
One wrote: “Evening invitation = nice card or a decent bottle of wine if you’re feeling generous.” How can guests be expected to pay cash if they are not important enough to come? Bloody cheek.’
Others, however, did not think that the request was important. One person suggested that a small token would be sufficient, asking: “Can you afford PS20?” We got that from a few guests at our dinner, and I was not offended. Some of them gave only a card.
